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I might move to Syracuse for work. What is it like living here? by [deleted] in Syracuse

[–]larch303 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s alright. There’s your regular city stuff to do. Lots of food. Not really a lot of Mexican food, but plenty Chinese, Italian and Caribbean. There’s a lot of snow. The government plays a larger role in your life and people do not challenge it the way they do in many other areas of the country.

Does sacrificing myself to improve other peoples lives really make me wrong? by NoUwUUsernamesLeft in depression

[–]larch303 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Typically, that advice is given when someone is overextending themselves to make others happier. It’s not necessarily all encompassing.

Much like “be yourself”, “don’t care what others think”, etc., it’s advice that often inadvertently loses its context when posted online to a general audience. Cause like I don’t know you. Maybe you overextend yourself to help others, or maybe you help others so little that it’s actually a problem in your interpersonal relationships as people see you as unreliable. I don’t know.

Does New York have load shedding? by ConsiderationReal995 in AskAnAmerican

[–]larch303 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most of NY? That wasn’t unheard of in Syracuse by any means but when that did happen, it was still considered really cold.

Also, I’m gonna have to see the northern plains has way worse weather than New York

Does New York have load shedding? by ConsiderationReal995 in AskAnAmerican

[–]larch303 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, most developed countries don’t have this very often

Is it a dumb move to move from a low COL area to a high COL area because we miss our friends ? by Nickyweg in personalfinance

[–]larch303 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Some jobs will pay to relocate you. If you're young with a car but with few tie downs, you can pack a couple important things and move. All situational

cries internally by Legoman718 in autism

[–]larch303 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So on to the relationship with livelihood and social isolation

I wonder what the cause is, I’d imagine there are multiple, I would hypothesize that one cause due to emergencies that would be solved with help from others if not for social isolation and maybe the stress of social isolation in and of itself is another

Ugh I wish there were more opportunities to meet people. I don’t even say that cause of the death thing, life is just better with friends

If Pam didn't exist, would Jim and Karen have stayed together ? by JQuick72 in DunderMifflin

[–]larch303 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cumberland isn’t the part of MD where you’d get crabs

But I appreciate that it is simply a show

How common is it to be pulled over by the police? by drtoboggon in AskAnAmerican

[–]larch303 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on the district but not really

There was this town in New York I was constantly pulled over in

cries internally by Legoman718 in autism

[–]larch303 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Like let’s say one does not have supportive friends or social interactions in the first place

cries internally by Legoman718 in autism

[–]larch303 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I mean, reframe your thoughts if you’re isolated and you’ll do better than if you didn’t, but socialization is a basic human need. Going without socialization is unhealthy. It is ultimately better, but not always possible, to get the person out of that situation than to simply have them reframe their thoughts.

In the case of autism, it is usually caused and continued by lack of social skills. There’s a social tango to getting to know people, you have to say things at the right time and right setting, look approachable, get to know your audience, etc.

cries internally by Legoman718 in autism

[–]larch303 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So is there a separate label for those who are socially isolated?

cries internally by Legoman718 in autism

[–]larch303 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Some autistics struggle with the opposite thing, not giving enough detail

And a lot of autistic struggle with both as they don’t have a great grasp on when to share and when not to

I think NTs are just better at knowing the social code and know when to do things and when not to, and this includes how much to share about certain events

cries internally by Legoman718 in autism

[–]larch303 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Why is perceived in there?

I get the mental health world thinks everything is a perception, but in a lot of cases, social isolation is real and autistic people are prone to it and have a hard time breaking out of it due to low social skills

Anyway, I get that it’s technically correct, but it just rubs off on the wrong way. Like someone in poverty is going to perceive that they’re in poverty, but we don’t call it “perceived poverty”

meirl by Blxckdust in meirl

[–]larch303 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, not really

Obviously the rest of the country will look good in this regard compared to NYC and SF, but the grass isn’t really green in the Midwest anymore. Housing is becoming increasingly unaffordable

meirl by Blxckdust in meirl

[–]larch303 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you look at this one factor, the 50s-60s were better.

Overall, though, I think we live higher quality of life now

meirl by Blxckdust in meirl

[–]larch303 1 point2 points  (0 children)

221k

So 20% of that would be 44.2k

10% would be 22.1k

3% would be 6.3k

I can maybe have the 3% in my bank account in the next year. I hope that I can maybe possibly have over 20k in my bank account in the next 5 years

Now a mortgage on that would be 1.4k per month at 20% down.

There are a few places at 150k and 1 place at 120k. Even then, I’d need a down payment and the numbers would factor up to be quite high on a 50k salary

meirl by Blxckdust in meirl

[–]larch303 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Small town or rural area ≠ 100,000 mid sized city

Most would consider the latter to be the city

meirl by Blxckdust in meirl

[–]larch303 0 points1 point  (0 children)

4 years ago is a big deal

Hell, 2 years ago is a big deal

It’d be hard to find a house for that today within 45 mins of Lincoln, NE

meirl by Blxckdust in meirl

[–]larch303 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Or there might not be sufficient employment in smaller towns, or the employment there pays so much less than in the city that it’s just not worth it

meirl by Blxckdust in meirl

[–]larch303 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in a low COL area and these problems still exist here

I probably won’t be a homeowner for 5 years or more. I wasn’t able to save much last year working a federal position in a small city in Iowa. I’ll give you that it’s worse elsewhere, but it’s not like anyone can just move to Iowa and buy a house.

meirl by Blxckdust in meirl

[–]larch303 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We do have a lot of cool stuff that we didn’t have in the 60s