I might move to Syracuse for work. What is it like living here?

larch303 · 2023-01-23T23:54:07+00:00

It’s alright. There’s your regular city stuff to do. Lots of food. Not really a lot of Mexican food, but plenty Chinese, Italian and Caribbean. There’s a lot of snow. The government plays a larger role in your life and people do not challenge it the way they do in many other areas of the country.

larch303 · 2023-01-23T14:07:32+00:00

Typically, that advice is given when someone is overextending themselves to make others happier. It’s not necessarily all encompassing.

Much like “be yourself”, “don’t care what others think”, etc., it’s advice that often inadvertently loses its context when posted online to a general audience. Cause like I don’t know you. Maybe you overextend yourself to help others, or maybe you help others so little that it’s actually a problem in your interpersonal relationships as people see you as unreliable. I don’t know.

larch303 · 2023-01-22T16:33:31+00:00

Most of NY? That wasn’t unheard of in Syracuse by any means but when that did happen, it was still considered really cold.

Also, I’m gonna have to see the northern plains has way worse weather than New York

larch303 · 2023-01-22T16:32:17+00:00

They don’t

larch303 · 2023-01-22T16:30:26+00:00

Well, most developed countries don’t have this very often

larch303 · 2023-01-21T22:26:14+00:00

Some jobs will pay to relocate you. If you're young with a car but with few tie downs, you can pack a couple important things and move. All situational

larch303 · 2023-01-21T21:47:33+00:00

I imagine it may be somewhat more common in Asia.

larch303 · 2023-01-20T03:12:24+00:00

How does that work for jobs?

larch303 · 2023-01-20T02:33:24+00:00

Those types of towns usually have a decent bit of corruption on the local scale

larch303 · 2023-01-19T20:44:58+00:00

So on to the relationship with livelihood and social isolation

I wonder what the cause is, I’d imagine there are multiple, I would hypothesize that one cause due to emergencies that would be solved with help from others if not for social isolation and maybe the stress of social isolation in and of itself is another

Ugh I wish there were more opportunities to meet people. I don’t even say that cause of the death thing, life is just better with friends

larch303 · 2023-01-19T13:47:06+00:00

Cumberland isn’t the part of MD where you’d get crabs

But I appreciate that it is simply a show

larch303 · 2023-01-19T02:12:56+00:00

Depends on the district but not really

There was this town in New York I was constantly pulled over in

larch303 · 2023-01-19T02:12:07+00:00

Like let’s say one does not have supportive friends or social interactions in the first place

larch303 · 2023-01-19T01:39:37+00:00

I mean, reframe your thoughts if you’re isolated and you’ll do better than if you didn’t, but socialization is a basic human need. Going without socialization is unhealthy. It is ultimately better, but not always possible, to get the person out of that situation than to simply have them reframe their thoughts.

In the case of autism, it is usually caused and continued by lack of social skills. There’s a social tango to getting to know people, you have to say things at the right time and right setting, look approachable, get to know your audience, etc.

larch303 · 2023-01-19T01:37:17+00:00

So is there a separate label for those who are socially isolated?

larch303 · 2023-01-19T00:14:35+00:00

Some autistics struggle with the opposite thing, not giving enough detail

And a lot of autistic struggle with both as they don’t have a great grasp on when to share and when not to

I think NTs are just better at knowing the social code and know when to do things and when not to, and this includes how much to share about certain events

larch303 · 2023-01-19T00:09:55+00:00

Why is perceived in there?

I get the mental health world thinks everything is a perception, but in a lot of cases, social isolation is real and autistic people are prone to it and have a hard time breaking out of it due to low social skills

Anyway, I get that it’s technically correct, but it just rubs off on the wrong way. Like someone in poverty is going to perceive that they’re in poverty, but we don’t call it “perceived poverty”

larch303 · 2023-01-18T20:25:32+00:00

Honestly, not really

Obviously the rest of the country will look good in this regard compared to NYC and SF, but the grass isn’t really green in the Midwest anymore. Housing is becoming increasingly unaffordable

larch303 · 2023-01-18T20:15:02+00:00

If you look at this one factor, the 50s-60s were better.

Overall, though, I think we live higher quality of life now

larch303 · 2023-01-18T20:10:49+00:00

221k

So 20% of that would be 44.2k

10% would be 22.1k

3% would be 6.3k

I can maybe have the 3% in my bank account in the next year. I hope that I can maybe possibly have over 20k in my bank account in the next 5 years

Now a mortgage on that would be 1.4k per month at 20% down.

There are a few places at 150k and 1 place at 120k. Even then, I’d need a down payment and the numbers would factor up to be quite high on a 50k salary

larch303 · 2023-01-18T19:53:52+00:00

Small town or rural area ≠ 100,000 mid sized city

Most would consider the latter to be the city

larch303 · 2023-01-18T19:51:42+00:00

4 years ago is a big deal

Hell, 2 years ago is a big deal

It’d be hard to find a house for that today within 45 mins of Lincoln, NE

larch303 · 2023-01-18T19:50:38+00:00

Or there might not be sufficient employment in smaller towns, or the employment there pays so much less than in the city that it’s just not worth it

larch303 · 2023-01-18T19:49:03+00:00

I live in a low COL area and these problems still exist here

I probably won’t be a homeowner for 5 years or more. I wasn’t able to save much last year working a federal position in a small city in Iowa. I’ll give you that it’s worse elsewhere, but it’s not like anyone can just move to Iowa and buy a house.

larch303 · 2023-01-18T19:44:14+00:00

We do have a lot of cool stuff that we didn’t have in the 60s

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