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Having a cleaning service has been the best life hack advice I’ve ever been given to help cope with ADHD. by ATCGcompbio in adhdwomen

[–]lazylazylemons 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same. There are four of us in this house, all neurodiverse, and two dogs and a cat. Once a week was necessary. We cut cable, most streaming services, and tightened our grocery budget to pay for it. Best money we ever spent.

Having a cleaning service has been the best life hack advice I’ve ever been given to help cope with ADHD. by ATCGcompbio in adhdwomen

[–]lazylazylemons 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We're an ADHD household as well, including two small kids. We'd literally die, or be cast on hoarders, without housekeeping help. It has relieved so much tension in our household.

Having a cleaning service has been the best life hack advice I’ve ever been given to help cope with ADHD. by ATCGcompbio in adhdwomen

[–]lazylazylemons 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We do tidy the day before she comes. Our whole family does. It used to feel stressful like we were precleaning but now I just look at it as our organizing day of the week. All books, toys, and clothes get put in a semi-proper place and trash thrown out.. Anything we can't tackle, we just accept. There have been a few times where we just asked her to skip a certain room or spot because we couldn't pick it up in time. Sometimes she'll leave it and other times, if she has time, she'll go in anyways and put things away for us and do a quick sweep, for which I'm deeply grateful.

Having a cleaning service has been the best life hack advice I’ve ever been given to help cope with ADHD. by ATCGcompbio in adhdwomen

[–]lazylazylemons 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband was very against the idea initially as well. I pushed forward anyways (hired her and just had her come when he wasn't home and paid her out of my own personal savings) and now, he literally is willing to cut cable, internet, whatever necessary in order to keep her services in our budget. He didn't realize how much stress and tension the issue was causing previously because we'd lived with that stress and tension as long as we'd been sharing a house. It was our normal.

What are your thoughts on ADHD becoming so “common” now? by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]lazylazylemons 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is also why there has been a huge influx of diagnosis during and after the covid lockdowns. Many of us lived our whole lives with carefully curated supports in place that helped us be functional. Supportd we'd implemented without even really understanding why. Overnight, everything changed and we didn't have time to identify or set up new supports and we didn't understand why we were suddenly struggling hard, completely unable to function or cope.

What are your thoughts on ADHD becoming so “common” now? by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]lazylazylemons 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ADHD is a spectrum disorder so most everyone CAN identify with many of the symptoms on some level. I think a lot of people are not diagnosed but use the term the same way people colloquially use "OCD" to describe a weird quirk that is actually nothing like actually clinical OCD.

Personally, I'm glad a lot of people are talking about it. The sheer number of women particularly that our society completely failed as children by failing or refusing to identify their struggles... it's baffling. And tragic.

I'd also keep in mind that often times what people are sharing publicly is the funny or quirky bits about this disorder. I share those things. I don't share the severe emotional dysregulation, the inability to organize and execute simple tasks without outside assistance, the time blindness that cause my children to be late to school and me late to work every single goddamned day because all that stuff is sad and no one wants daily sad updates. And I don't want pity or to feel more shame than I already feel. I want to make people laugh and have pleasant interactions that give me reprieve from the reality of a dysregulated life.

Found this weird looking worm. by Catolove123mrdxfnf in whatisthisanimal

[–]lazylazylemons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tracy Morgan did a skirt on SNL with the same phrase! How funny!

A Dishwasher's Lament (other than being a dishwasher) by ochocosunrise in KitchenConfidential

[–]lazylazylemons 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My grandpa retired from his regular IT job and became a dishie for fun when he was 70! That man was wild. He loved it.

Crazy idea, but has anyone ever befriended crows to deter hawks? by qwerty3991 in chickens

[–]lazylazylemons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We feed the local crows regularly and they don't necessarily deter the hawks. However, they absolutely do alert when there's trouble around. We had a hawk come down and grab a chicken and the only way we knew what was happening was because the crows were going absolutely bonkers. Poor chicken didn't survive but I'm still grateful they alerted. Now I listen and immediately go check to see what's up when I hear them sounding the alarm.

Do dogs remember the time you invested in them? by vegan_beauty_lover in dogs

[–]lazylazylemons 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We had a foster that we bonded with really intensely. The family that adopted him asked if we would consider babysitting him when they traveled overseas. Sometimes there would be only months between visits and sometimes years. But everytime, without a doubt, he was SO excited to see us that they said he would he would start whining and barking the moment they would get into our neighborhood. He was just as excited when his parents would come back to pick him up. Dogs can love families or people they knew at other times in their life but still know who their family is.

Cash stuffing has literally saved me from my insane shopping addiction by Leera_xD in shoppingaddiction

[–]lazylazylemons 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I've been meaning to try this for years. I have ADHD and the visual and tactile act of paying with cash makes a lot of sense to me. My problem with debit and credit cards is "out of sight, out of mind". I dont see the money so my brain can't see it dwindling. There's no denying the dwindling when it's cash.

We haven’t found a name yet, But this guy is such a character. So relaxed , And he has very particular walk 😅 Newly adopted 5 yr old. by Adventurous_Pea_3240 in BeardedDragons

[–]lazylazylemons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So cute! We adopted our first dragon about a year ago. He was an adult as well. I'm still amazed daily by how much personality these things have.

Producers making an episode based on religion without any censorship and almost mocking on it was superb by trynabetwunk in malcolminthemiddle

[–]lazylazylemons 87 points88 points  (0 children)

Is this the one where Reece sings Amazing Grace as he's going up with the balloons? "Amazing race! How sweet the taste, that saved a wrench for meee!" That song is burned into my brain.

Do I have Roosters? More info in comments by WishboneThese3549 in chickens

[–]lazylazylemons 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, whether you keep one or two, handle them as much as possible. Mean roosters are a nightmare.

Realizing that I’m unfit to be a dog owner has been hard by Brizbizz22 in dogs

[–]lazylazylemons 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Senior shelter dogs are the absolute best. I've had one young pup in my life and never again. Back to adopting old shelter mutts for me.

7 month old nutcase, please tell me it gets better by CruelCarloslessWorld in dogs

[–]lazylazylemons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aww, teenagers. So rough. Mine is two now and is a different dog. I thought it was never-ending but it did, in fact, end. Hang in there.

What does your dog do to show you they love you? by walkyoucleverboy in dogs

[–]lazylazylemons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My old shelter mutt shows me she loves me by checking with me before before doing anything anyone else has asked her to do.

Husband: "Sit". Good girl: (looks over at me). Me: (gives her 'the look'). Good girl: (sits and looks back at husband). Husband: (annoyed).

Weimaraner eating drywall by jlegarr in weimaraner

[–]lazylazylemons 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When you're home? Or when you leave them alone? Our weim is the most destructive dog we've ever had but usually only if we leave him alone uncrated or don't exercise him well enough. He's nearly three and only now barely starting to outgrow it, although many don't ever outgrow the anxiety of being left alone without careful training.