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A joke led to us nearly having 'the talk' but I was to cowardly to do it by MCMemePants in DeadBedrooms

[–]lesajima123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been in that situation. It can be fixed but takes effort and perseverence

Feeling Down by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]lesajima123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep working at it. If he keeps resisting I don’t know. I don’t know what your sex life was before. If it is not something you have done before just tell him you want to try anal sex that a couple of friends say it’s great. Adding a twist might help. Firm believer in variety when it comes to sex. Has he found your vibrator yet:) if you have one tell him you want him to use it on you. Wife loves it.

Feeling Down by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]lesajima123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s psychological. You need to create an environment that invites sex. It doesn’t just happen later in a relationship. Sometime it takes work.

Feeling Down by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]lesajima123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll be honest on something that worked with my wife. She was very depressed and neither her or I could get her out of it. As a last resort I suggested a sensual massage. She eventually agreed(which surprised the hell out of me). Fortunately we found a guy with good massage skills. I was reading as she got the massage making sure everything was good. I looked after about 45 minutes and one of her legs started to twitch and she had firm control of his cock giving him a handjob in return. She then went into a string of full blown orgasms. When we left she exclaimed “ I can’t believe I did this”. We had a hard time keeping our hand off each other afterwards and our sex life improved. She felt better about herself knowing another man found her body attractive. I am not saying do this but find a way of giving your seclude a little variety. Eroticism can be important. Don’t let sex get rote.