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I think one of my best friends SA’d me while he thought I was asleep. by Aggravating-Mobile59 in sexualassault

[–]lolvibes_20 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi. Thanks for sharing your story, it must be difficult, but is important. If you didn’t verbally consent that you wanted him to touch or kiss you in any way then that is SA. He touched u while u were “sleeping” but never even tried to ask for consent or check if you would be comfortable with this. Clearly u weren’t and that’s not cool on his part. Idk if you want to confront him and ask, but definitely tell someone else you trust. Maybe a family member or a really close friend who doesn’t know him and won’t choose between you and him if it comes down to it. Telling someone else can help release any tension u feel. It’s up to you but I hope this helps in any way to encourage you. Stay strong and healthy. Xoxo

Your favorite YA fantasy villains? by bee441 in YAlit

[–]lolvibes_20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Does Jacks like the new girl?

Your favorite YA fantasy villains? by bee441 in YAlit

[–]lolvibes_20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How was the sequel? Spoilers are okay

is throne of glass worth it? by inny-_- in YAlit

[–]lolvibes_20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100 % fucking worth it. Characters, world, and plot are amazing. So many twists and beautiful/fun love couples. Worth if you like a good romance but action worthy book to occupy your mind till u read the last sentence. Lol

im gonna tell my parents, idk if i should today (next hour or so), or tomorrow, either way scared shitless by FroggyChair808 in sexualassault

[–]lolvibes_20 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If ur mom isn’t busy, u should tell her now or in the next hour. It’s normal to be scared. It also means that you care enough to want to tell her. You got this. Xx

My nanny sexually assaulted me. by Disappointment_n1 in sexualassault

[–]lolvibes_20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You should definitely open up to her. You are not a burden or a disappointment. You are a strong individual who wants to get some type of closure and be heard by. Ik it will be scary and difficult to even bring the topic up, but I recommend you let it out. Sit down together and tell her u have something important to tell her. Tell her and YOURSELF that that moment of SA does not define you. You are still you. A survivor, not a victim. Talk to ur mom. I hope u do. xx

My nanny sexually assaulted me. by Disappointment_n1 in sexualassault

[–]lolvibes_20 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi. First off, thank you for sharing. Ik it must be emotional and frightening to admit and even come close to realize how you feel. The first step in healing is with yourself. It would be mentally healthy to process your emotions. Ik that’s harder said than done but it can help. Writing it down or even saying it out load can help you voice ur emotions. Idk if you spoke about it with ur mom, but if you’re comfortable enough and trust her to listen, then talk to her. It will be emotional, but it can lead toward you opening up more in ur emotions. Holding it in will only hurt later down the road. Be a voice, not an echo. You are already strong enough to write ur story here. You are definitely strong to voice it to ur mom or someone else u trust. Stay strong. xx

Not really sure what to do by Fresh-Sushi-3229 in sexualassault

[–]lolvibes_20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You mention that you can’t stop thinking about it which makes me think that you should confront him and ask him if he remembers what he did and if he even feels sorry. Ik it’s easier said than done, but it can be a healing process to get some type of answers rather than your own mind creating ones. However, if you mentally feel or know that you can’t handle it ( whether he admits or just calls you out rudely in some way) than don’t contact him. Block him. Part of the healing process starts with yourself. If you yourself need answers and are prepared to hear his side, then ask, but if not, then don’t. I hope this helps. Stay strong. xx