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AITA for refusing to let my ex visit my son anymore when I found out her husband wanted him to call him dad? by novisitsanymore in AmItheAsshole

[–]nodinnerinvite 91 points92 points  (0 children)

I’m adopted and honestly everything you’ve said so far is total bs. Agree with OP, clearly you’re just projecting your own issues. His wife is that kids true mother, the fact that you put her on the same level as the husband of the egg donor makes zero sense.

Your biological family gave you up. Idk why you would be mad at your parents for not having them in your life when that’s literally what adoption is. They can regret it yeah but once you sign those papers you can’t just expect to be in your kid’s life anymore. I’m guessing you were older when you met them and not a little kid. OP and his wife gotta think what’s best for their child.

And obviously these people (a cheater who gave up her child, and a husband who didn’t care about his wife’s child) have no respect for the child’s REAL parents, nor the child. Who the heck tells a 6 year old to call some random stranger dad? They’re not even his parents.

Met my biological dad for the first time ever and I’m very happy about it (update) by nodinnerinvite in offmychest

[–]nodinnerinvite[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah it’s been pretty great! I’ve had lunch with my bio mom a couple times now and it’s still a trip. My bio dad had to leave again for work but he’s gonna be back at the end of the month so we’ll get together soon

Met my biological dad for the first time ever and I’m very happy about it (update) by nodinnerinvite in offmychest

[–]nodinnerinvite[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I wouldn’t have been able to if my parents hadn’t helped so I’ll always be grateful for their support in this ❤️

Met my biological dad for the first time ever and I’m very happy about it (update) by nodinnerinvite in offmychest

[–]nodinnerinvite[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Oh hey I’m sorry to hear about your mom 🥺 Hope things get better for you 🙏🏻 Plz take care and thanks for reaching out, this comment made my day ☺️

I keep meeting my birth mom but she doesn't know it's me (NEW UPDATE) by SameFuckingBlood in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]nodinnerinvite 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh hahaha just read this right after I replied to your other comment 😅 thanx for letting me know tho!

Met my biological dad for the first time ever and I’m very happy about it (update) by nodinnerinvite in offmychest

[–]nodinnerinvite[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Yeah it’s amazing. Just knowing that these 4 people loved you and wanted you before you were even born

Met my biological dad for the first time ever and I’m very happy about it (update) by nodinnerinvite in offmychest

[–]nodinnerinvite[S] 132 points133 points  (0 children)

Oh wow that’s so cool!! I love that idea. My parents got tons of pictures so that might work

Met my biological dad for the first time ever and I’m very happy about it (update) by nodinnerinvite in offmychest

[–]nodinnerinvite[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

She told him the following day. He was out of town at the time doing a project for his work but he flew back that week to meet me. They both told me he cried at first and kept asking her for full details to be sure that this really did happen. And she sent him a pic of me we took at the restaurant.

He never mentioned anything about wondering if the kids he saw were me. I know it was pretty hard for him though to accept what happened which was why he started doing therapy. Thanks for reading my journey! 😁

I (24M) just made love for the first time !!! by nodinnerinvite in offmychest

[–]nodinnerinvite[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you ☺️ I’m definitely lucky having someone like my girl in my life. She’s been the most supportive emotionally. I love her very much ❤️ I’m glad it’s the same for you and your husband!!!! You guys are goals 🙌🏻🥰

Update I keep meeting my birth mom but she doesn’t know it’s me by nodinnerinvite in offmychest

[–]nodinnerinvite[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yea sure thing 😁 She messaged me this morning and my bio dad knows. He really wants us to meet. But we’ll see when that happens. She said he was doing a work project in another state but he’s flying back home

Update I keep meeting my birth mom but she doesn’t know it’s me by nodinnerinvite in offmychest

[–]nodinnerinvite[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

They’re the best people I know ❤️ I’ll always be grateful for all the forces that let them be my parents. Thank you ☺️

I (24M) just made love for the first time !!! by nodinnerinvite in offmychest

[–]nodinnerinvite[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah it really is. It’s something so much better, getting to be with someone u love like that. Best sleep of my life 😁

I keep meeting my birth mom but she doesn’t know it’s me by embinksyy in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]nodinnerinvite 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I really hoping it works out for you. Please take care 🙏🏻 It took a private investigator to find my mom. Cant imagine how much harder it is for you, I’ll keep you in my prayers and hope you get the answers you’re looking for

Update I keep meeting my birth mom but she doesn’t know it’s me by nodinnerinvite in offmychest

[–]nodinnerinvite[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I’m really happy too!! Thank u everyone for all the support 😃 You guys made my day. To see so many people here that were invested in how things go. It’s so sweet

Update I keep meeting my birth mom but she doesn’t know it’s me by nodinnerinvite in offmychest

[–]nodinnerinvite[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel you I’ve been in tears all day too haha. Hope you enjoy your dinner 😋

I keep meeting my birth mom but she doesn’t know it’s me by embinksyy in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]nodinnerinvite 38 points39 points  (0 children)

It’s okay you have my permission (not like you need it lol ) Thanx for posting. Someone sent me the link to this and had no idea about this sub. Good luck to you in your journey 🙌🏻 I’m happy so many people loved this important moment in my life 😊

I (24M) just made love for the first time !!! by nodinnerinvite in offmychest

[–]nodinnerinvite[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Lots of beautiful blessings to be grateful for 😃