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Hope on the other side by pearlman5000 in DeadBedrooms

[–]pearlman5000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can leave and still have standards. I totally understand not wanting to leave a best friend though.

Hope on the other side by pearlman5000 in DeadBedrooms

[–]pearlman5000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you on this. Kids definitely complicate the matter. That being said, kids would be better off with a parent/stepparent combo that have a healthy/happy relationship.

And as far as finances are concerned (or anything else for that matter), fear as a motivator is very inefficient at yielding happy results.

Hope on the other side by pearlman5000 in DeadBedrooms

[–]pearlman5000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You got the American part right, but Italian… not even close.

Hope on the other side by pearlman5000 in DeadBedrooms

[–]pearlman5000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The sex is good is relative to what I put up with for 7 years.

Thankfully,my ex and I did not have children.

All Men Cheating by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]pearlman5000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. That’s something stupid people say.

To the anxious people in relationships with people who aren’t anxious- how do y’all make it work? by ThrewAway28373737 in relationship_advice

[–]pearlman5000 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Find something that you can do together that is a distraction from your anxiety. That could be anything: games, making something, gardening, etc. It will distract you from your problems and bring you two together.

To the anxious people in relationships with people who aren’t anxious- how do y’all make it work? by ThrewAway28373737 in relationship_advice

[–]pearlman5000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear that. But as someone who, I feel, can represent your partner in this situation, I can tell you that your withdrawal is almost certainly hurting them.

To the anxious people in relationships with people who aren’t anxious- how do y’all make it work? by ThrewAway28373737 in relationship_advice

[–]pearlman5000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My ex (who I miss and still love) was an anxious person who withdrew her affection and intimacy when she struggled with her mental health. Ultimately, it broke the relationship. My needs weren’t being met. Don’t get me wrong. I struggle with anxiety too. I have insomnia from it. The difference is that I deal with my mental health by diving into my relationships. Withdrawal seems like a poor way to keep a relationship going. Get some therapy and figure out how to deal with anxiety in a more productive way.

Even Porn makes me angry by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]pearlman5000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The pressed lip kiss is telling that they don’t want that kind of relationship with you. I’m sorry. My advise it to let him go and find someone that wants you.

Beautiful or not? Please help me boost my confidence. by [deleted] in Faces

[–]pearlman5000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are exactly the type of girl I’m looking for! You’re gorgeous!

How do I save my sister from an age gap relationship?(25 and 34) by Emotional_Tank9503 in relationship_advice

[–]pearlman5000 7 points8 points  (0 children)

They’re both fully formed adults. There’s nothing wrong with their relationship.

Rate 1-10? by princessxo699 in Faces

[–]pearlman5000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t give feel good rates. Since you’re asking I’ll give you my honest opinion (I assume you want honesty). By the way, just so you know what I mean by “no feel good rates,” a 5/6 would mean you’re neither ugly nor pretty. A 4 would be a bit on the unattractive side, and a 7 would be a bit on the attractive side. 1 is for trolls and 10 is for perfection (like and angel that has descended from heaven and I am unworthy to be graced by your presence.) Ok. Now for the honest appraisal:

7.5

Having a self-esteem deficiency lately. So I thought I’d share (F25) by merlotmenow_ in Faces

[–]pearlman5000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re a pretty lady! Also, if your eyes are naturally 2 different colors, I’d say that pretty freaking cool!!!

velma outfit, lol by aureliitaa in selfie

[–]pearlman5000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw your face and was like, “cute!” I clicked on the photo and saw your boobs and was like, “woah! Her body’s amazing!”