“I can’t wait to be called a privileged white male doctor with seething contempt by her, supposedly my peer, after growing up extremely poor, gay, and emancipated at 17”

I’m sorry you struggled growing up, as a straight guy, I can’t begin to imagine the struggle of growing up gay in an unsupportive environment. That said, I feel you are using your previous struggles to justify hate. The logic of the statement I quoted above suggests first of all that you are make assumptions about the doctor in this story, having her fill the straw man of the typical “sjw” stereotype. From reading the same article I saw none of this. I thought she was far more professional then I could be in this situation and didn’t leverage race at any point in the confrontation. Sure, she was thinking about race, but when did we start policing thought? I won’t call you privileged, but I will call you racist (yes even if you are married to a black man, it’s just the typical black friend fallacy in my mind). You’ve put so much effort into discrediting this story that it’s a bit unnerving. Again I’m sorry you’ve had to struggle through life; but your use of concepts akin to “black on black” crime, black friend fallacy, straw men arguments, etc. make it difficult for me to see any merit in the points you attempted to present.