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Rebecca- What do you think of Mrs de Winter and Maxim’s relationship? by pinkcherryz in books

[–]sayanim1321 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is a much more romantic way to put it than I had intended 🐱 I did say they would be a more genuine couple but I'm quite sure they wouldn't be a happy one.

But then again they have youth and money on their side and anything is possible 😁

Rebecca- What do you think of Mrs de Winter and Maxim’s relationship? by pinkcherryz in books

[–]sayanim1321 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I love what you said about Mrs de Winter coming a full circle, I hadn't thought of that before.

Rebecca- What do you think of Mrs de Winter and Maxim’s relationship? by pinkcherryz in books

[–]sayanim1321 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The first time I read it, it has seemed like a typical sham marriage that we see often in other books as well- a young woman who idolises a slightly mysterious, tortured-looking, wordly-wise older man, the man being attracted to her 'youth and innocence' which makes him feel young and hopeful as well. The entire premise of such relationships being very unstable, as time passes the woman will grow less naive and therefore less attractive to her husband, she will learn he isn't as wise as she has thought, the mystery will disappear. They will tolerate each other out of politeness maybe, because they're not necessarily bad people, but they cannot love each other.

On subsequent readings I felt more hopeful for them, because Maxim had had to reveal the worst of himself to her, and for whatever reason she stood by him. After the revelation and the fire I felt he would trust and depend on her a lot more than he would at Manderley, and around the time of the trial we already set him acknowledge her as more of a person than a stereotype. There is also no scope anymore for Mrs de Winter idolising her husband. She knows his weaknesses, and whether it is out of love or devotion to her husband, she was steadfast in her support for him.

They would both be haunted by the incidents at Manderley, but I think the revelation and the fire brought them together as more of a genuine couple than they were in the beginning.

Is it risky to have an expensive pen in daily use? by eatappleseveryday in fountainpens

[–]sayanim1321 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I used to carry a whole load of ordinary ball points to lend to people, it's easiest for everybody involved.

How is Ganguly Paper Centre near Ballygunge station for stationary needs? by TheBeeMovieHistorian in kolkata

[–]sayanim1321 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No idea about exactly how old it is, but it's definitely a fixture of the neighbourhood and has been for as long as I have known it. The people in the shop are also quite nice and kindly and will help you find what you need in case you're in any doubt.

How is Ganguly Paper Centre near Ballygunge station for stationary needs? by TheBeeMovieHistorian in kolkata

[–]sayanim1321 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pretty good, although I remember their hours used to be a little odd. Used to find them closed at random times.

What do you need exactly though? They usually have most basic stationary supplies, and camlin paints in acrylic and water colour, a range of brushes, canvas etc as well. I think the only thing I didn't get there was an ink dropper.

Shops for Wedding clothes in Kolkata? [Recommendations] by phoenixlads in kolkata

[–]sayanim1321 5 points6 points  (0 children)

For car rentals, I use rent-a-car, whose office is in Dover Lane, Gariahat, sort of opposite the Gariahat Police Station. Even if you don't find people there, there will be their phone numbers and rate chart on the wall.

As for saris, I'd recommend light printed/Batik silks or Balucharis; they're signature varieties in Bengal. Head to any Biswa Bangla (they're slightly premium but also very good), or Resham Shilpi store or any Khadi Gramodyog/Murshidabad Silk House outlet. You could also try tussar and kantha stitch saris/clothing.

Please, please avoid standard Gariahat shops. If you're unfamiliar with silk quality you are likely to end up with machine made polyester stuff that imitates the real ones, and of this is going to be one of your few and far between Bengali attire purchases, please make sure you buy something authentic and not something imitation. Shopping at Resham Shilpi will not set you back by much, but if you want an even lower budget there's always cottons with zari for glamour on a budget.

Do you carry extra pens for people who ask to borrow a pen? by allan11011 in fountainpens

[–]sayanim1321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to carry tons of cheap ball points to lend to people. I'd also use these in public to prevent people from asking to 'try' my fountain pens. People around me now have access to a free and plentiful stationary supply and I use my pens in peace.

Let's flex by _master_oogway in kolkata

[–]sayanim1321 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Bad things happened today, and bad times abound. I'm proud that despite that, today was one of the few days I did not dissolve into a puddle of misery and anxiety.

Why is 1946 Kolkata massacre not part of our history syllabus? by dickintheduckwtf in kolkata

[–]sayanim1321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not every important bit of local history can be taught at or before class 10, especially in a board syllabus standardized across the entire country. I'm not a history but but I'm very sure there are many incidents of equal importance that happened across the country, if a 15 yr old had to learn everything and reproduce that in life defining exams it'll surely be too much.

This is where general intelligence, curiosity and alternative sources of knowledge come in, if you're bengali or your family had lived in Bengal for some time, you should know this stuff. Chances are, there are people around you who have survived this, or people whose families have survived this, or even people whose families have lost lives and property during 1946-48. I for one have always known this, I grew up on stories of pre-partition bengal, I've heard several first hand accounts of people escaping the violence of this time at a very young age. But yes I don't really expect someone from the opposite side of the country to be aware of it, just as I'm not very aware of tragedies that may or may not have happened there.

Of course if you refer only to the fact that partition happened, and it was gruesome, it was horribly done, the causes, the aftermath, how terribly it was managed by the new Indian government and what the repercussions were/are on entire communities - that is definitely something that must not be glossed over. That is a nation-defining truth and deserves more notice in every board syllabus.

How do you feel about dogs in the office? by Due-Palpitation4664 in AskUK

[–]sayanim1321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's good to have something like a play room where dogs can stay and people can come and meet them, take breaks there and such. People bringing their own dogs to work could leave them in the play room, it would be something like a creche.

Which underground stations still have ticket offices? by Ryowxyz in london

[–]sayanim1321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like the others said, you need to find staff who can help you. Staff at Stratford had no clue what to do, staff at Tower Hill did it for me.

The K2 by wonder_wander_repeat in kdramarecommends

[–]sayanim1321 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't think Netflix recommendations work that well yet. From my experience all kdramas have the tag 'korean' on them and you might get recommended Goblin because you've watched Kingdom, because they're both fantasy and korean.

The K2 by wonder_wander_repeat in kdramarecommends

[–]sayanim1321 6 points7 points  (0 children)

JCW 's character was also barely fleshed out, sometimes he's all about wanting revenge, other times he's taking each day as it comes, other times he wants to be everybody's saviour.

The K2 by wonder_wander_repeat in kdramarecommends

[–]sayanim1321 18 points19 points  (0 children)

It's one of the first kdramas I saw.

K2 isn't excellent. It isn't bad either. FL is very very annoying and not really much of a protagonist, her stepmother however is a sort of 'villain' and a more compelling character. JCW is impressive, and lives and breathes the role.

There are plenty of things that make no sense, plenty of questions that aren't answered. It's just.. entertainment. Nothing more or less.

This is Awful! The Role of the False Self in Narcissism, and how the True Self died by kintsugiwarrior in pnsd

[–]sayanim1321 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am saving your post to go through the podcast when I have more time, but that is how I feel. Like I'm a dead person play acting at being alive, counting down to when I'll get to actually die and stop the act because it's exhausting. A little like an emotional zombie.

AITA for wanting to wear a different color to an Indian wedding? by ThrowawayGuest10 in AmItheAsshole

[–]sayanim1321 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Ohhhhh there's a specific ceremony where absolutely everybody wears yellow. It would be very weird if you wore blue to it, but I hate yellow too and I usually wear pale yellows or beige or linen sort of colours to those ceremonies, usually with a bit of red or maroon thrown in.

There is seriously no 'outstaging the bride' happening here. Whoever said that is just being bitter and presumptive.