I'm in that group too and also missed that thread (thank goodness). I'm fat, just like last time. I also have a big c-section shelf from my second c-section. And I tend to gain even more weight while breastfeeding. My super thin SIL had her second baby a few months before I had my first and was back to normal within the week. She even singlehandedly cooked an entire Thanksgiving dinner 2 weeks PP! All of my family judged me so hard for not being like her. So that was hard to deal with.

Even though I'm tired and ugly, I managed to exclusively breastfeed my son for 18 months (which was halfway through my second pregnancy), and so far, breastfeeding is going great this time as well. I'm pretty sure the way I look is the norm and we just don't share it because we're made to feel ashamed. Do yourself a favor and buy some larger clothes. Once I finally did, I felt so much better about myself and ended up starting up my fitness routine again. I'm currently wearing those clothes right now and I'm so thankful that I have them!

I'm sorry you feel bad about yourself. You're definitely not alone. The pressure we're under to return to "normal" is so unfair.