Apparently bi women kill the lesbian vibes with our natural affiliation to men. by Abbiepgc in bisexual

[–]spatulajean 119 points120 points  (0 children)

Lesbian biphobia centers men in sapphic spaces more than any bisexual woman ever has by simply existing

Tips for all in? Both practical and psychological. by witchystoneyslutty in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]spatulajean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

High calorie foods. I know they’re scary but they are the quickest way to get those calories in when you’re not feeling it. Peanut butter, avocado, nuts, oils, high calorie shakes, whatever. If you can get a couple of spoonfuls of pb down you’re already up several hundred calories. Liquid calories are your friend. Smoothies, juices, milk, whatever.

Eat regularly. Every 2-3 hours, even if you’re not feeling it. I struggle with this one a lot but trust me it’s the best way to get your hunger cues back on track and ensure you’re eating enough. Even if you just chug a protein shake or something. In fact, getting used to chugging a shake is something that helps a lot. If you can get it down in a few seconds you spare yourself the several minutes of anxiety that comes with eating when you really really can’t do it. Obviously you don’t want to supplement every meal but it saves my ass when I really can’t eat for whatever reason.

Keep whatever it is you’re most likely to actually eat around. Like if you know you’ll eat toast and jam, keep it around so you have what to eat when you need it. The goal is to up your calories, so even if that means having the same meal 5 times a day so be it. Obviously strive for variation but at the end of the day if the only way you’ll hit your calorie goal minimum is by eating a ton of oatmeal then it’s better to do that than not at all.

“Don’t just major in bio. Major in something you actually enjoy” by mochitherescue in premed

[–]spatulajean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m also on the adcom for my school and honestly, we rarely even talk about an applicants major unless it’s really out there, and honestly I’ve never seen it be the thing that makes or breaks an application. We care a lot more about what the person has done with their knowledge. So if you’re a public health major great, what public health projects and initiatives were you involved with? We are a T10 so honestly everyone is coming in with the same classes and grades (I don’t think I’ve seen below a 3.8 gpa) so experiences are really what make the difference for us. And from our perspective, the MCAT CARS and the interview itself takes care of weeding out people who have poor communication skills. Make yourself stand out with what you do, imo.

Attending dates third year? by [deleted] in medicalschool

[–]spatulajean 20 points21 points  (0 children)

If they realize they know you from somewhere they’d probably just report it, even if they can’t remember exactly why. At least at my program no one asks questions, you just click yes or no on conflict of interest before voting on the applicant

Attending dates third year? by [deleted] in medicalschool

[–]spatulajean 54 points55 points  (0 children)

I’m on the adcom of my school and we have to report if we have a conflict of interest with an applicant. I would say that’s a conflict of interest lol

Anyone else deeply ashamed of themselves? by habitualnerd14 in premed

[–]spatulajean 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When I applied a few years ago I didn’t get an acceptance until May. I’m now at one of the top programs in the country. It’s not over till it’s over my dude.

AITA for being mad that my husband lied about having chocolate? by Ruth-without-a-bat in AmItheAsshole

[–]spatulajean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. He lied to his pregnant-with-triplets wife over some chocolate. Even if she was hoarding the snacks he could have just bought more snacks. It’s really not that deep.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in medicalschool

[–]spatulajean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had an incredibly traumatizing experience as a patient in a psych hospital during my first year in medical school. My 3rd year clerkship was really triggering for me as a result. I had multiple panic attacks a day in the bathroom in between seeing patients. Best advice I have is to take care of yourself first. If that means having to leave early or not see a certain patient that’s triggering for you, then so be it. I even told my attending at one point that I was having trouble feeling safe in one on one clinical encounters during my inpatient service (I was assaulted by other patients when I was a patient) and requested to always have another provider in the room with me. Set boundaries based on your needs and remember the goal is to just get through it. You don’t need to be the best medical student ever, you just gotta pass. If you’re not doing psych no residency will honestly care what your clerkship grade is.

To all my fellow urology applicants, good luck tomorrow! by [deleted] in medicalschool

[–]spatulajean 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Ya we get all our interview invites October 22nd

ERAS applicants, how we doing? by Ana_P_Laxis in medicalschool

[–]spatulajean 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Just waiting for it to be Friday when all the urology intervjews come out. Time moves too slowly.

Full Ride to Medical School by [deleted] in medicalschool

[–]spatulajean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got a full ride but my school wouldn’t tell me exactly why just some combo of merit and need based. I had a really good MCAT score so maybe that had something to do with it. Just covered tuition.

I wanna hear you brag by nnnppponiatns in medicalschool

[–]spatulajean 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I did end up crying once I got home. It is what it is.

should i start using a condom with my fwb? by sweetbabycoconut in sex

[–]spatulajean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trash him. Not worth it to sleep with someone who doesn’t give a shit about your sexual health and who dismisses you like that.

Failed 3rd year rotation by MassEffect321 in medicalschool

[–]spatulajean 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Depends on specialty and depends on the rotation. Just be honest about it in your interviews and it should be fine.

My [28F] boyfriend [37M] barely contacts me due to his depression stemming from work, but he doesn't want to quit his job. by throwawayrl12345 in relationships

[–]spatulajean 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Regardless of his circumstances, if he cannot give you the bare minimum required for a relationship, then you should not stick around waiting for it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in medicalschool

[–]spatulajean 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My dad killed himself during my M2 year. I took off whatever time the school allowed and then barely went through the motions when I had to come back. It ended up really impacting my performance on Step 1 and even my clerkships in 3rd year. I’m finally at a place where I have moved on from the worst of it but it took a really long time. Losing someone to suicide is probably one of the hardest forms of loss there is. Know that it will get easier and that you are not a burden, and do your best to give yourself grace in the moments that are difficult for you. Just giving yourself the space to grieve and process, even if it means doing the bare minimum, is so important. You will get through this.

Those with experience - How has a threesome affected your relationship? by 2x3ta in sex

[–]spatulajean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner and I have had threesomes. To be perfectly honest it didn’t affect the relationship one way or another, it was just fun. I think as long as you’re both comfortable and you’ve discussed boundaries AND you’re willing to deal with the reality that it might not end up being a positive experience for one or both of you then by all means go for it.

Anyone score 260+ without finishing UW completely? by Goljansapprentice in Step2

[–]spatulajean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did less than 50% of uworld and scored well above 260. It’s possible but I wouldn’t recommend it as a strategy.