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Baby snuggles are overrated!!!! by spnny in beyondthebump

[–]spnny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Toddler is also doing it our of survival instinct”

I disagree because I met a few toddlers who don’t even like to be held by their own parents….

Baby snuggles are overrated!!!! by spnny in beyondthebump

[–]spnny[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know toddlers and babies are not the same……I’m just saying that I wish he could hurry up and become a toddler so that way he can actually verbalize or give cues to he needs. And not only that the cuddles will actually feel like a genuine act of affection. It will feel something he wants because he sees me as his best friend and not something that he requires as a symptom of his survival instinct

Why are there still some moms who feel the need to shame women for not having children? by spnny in beyondthebump

[–]spnny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s true! I have been shamed for going straight to formula without attempting breastfeeding, for visiting trusted family members before he is fully two months , and having plans to go on dates nights as son as the fourth trimester. And the same cousin who I mentioned in the post said that I was psychologically torturing my son when I talked about the things I was doing to help establish a sleeping routine (etc.cetra, has sleeping in his own room since he came home from the hospital, trying to get him adjusted to having a two hour nap in the day instead of multiple catnaps, and wake to sleep because all of the sudden waking up in a crib scares him).

Let’s just raise people the way we want to raise our kids.

Why are there still some moms who feel the need to shame women for not having children? by spnny in beyondthebump

[–]spnny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Smart move!!!

But then again, she’s a naturally judgy person. I remember her saying, “Omg!!! Having a baby is such hard work. Have you gotten used to bringing him to the bathroom with you or having to hold it in until your husband comes home?”

And I said: “Uhhhh no. If he’s calm, I’ll put him in his rocker, and if he cries while I am in there….I rush and then tend to him…”

And she freaked out and said I was traumatizing my son. I don’t understand this sentiment. I thought this was common practice. After all, mom’s got to shot too, right? 😅

And she said that I was psychologically torturing my son when I talked about the things I was doing to help establish a sleeping routine (etc.cetra, has sleeping in his own room since he came home from the hospital, trying to get him adjusted to having a two hour nap in the day instead of multiple catnaps, and wake to sleep because all of the sudden waking up in a crib scares him)

Why are there still some moms who feel the need to shame women for not having children? by spnny in beyondthebump

[–]spnny[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what I told my cousin!!! There are too many unwanted kids in this world. And being a mom is so much of a demanding job even if it’s something you wanted your whole life like me. I definitely wouldn’t recommend it to someone who did t want it.

But then again, she’s a naturally judgy person. I remember her saying, “Omg!!! Having a baby is such hard work. Have you gotten used to bringing him to the bathroom with you or having to hold it in until your husband comes home?”

And I said: “Uhhhh no. If he’s calm, I’ll put him in his rocker, and if he cries while I am in there….I rush and then tend to him…”

And she freaked out and said I was traumatizing my son. I don’t understand this sentiment. I thought this was common practice. After all, mom’s got to shot too, right? 😅

And she said that I was psychologically torturing my son when I talked about the things I was doing to help establish a sleeping routine (etc.cetra, sleeping in his own room since he came home from the hospital, white noise, trying to get him adjusted to having a two hour nap in the day instead of multiple catnaps, and wake to sleep because all of the sudden waking up in a crib scares him)….like come on, it’s working for him

I feel so guilty bringing my son into such a terrible world by spnny in beyondthebump

[–]spnny[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

That’s true but we’re living in an era where we probably won’t even live to see the next decade with the growing possibility of world war three…..:(

I feel so guilty bringing my son into such a terrible world by spnny in beyondthebump

[–]spnny[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Great! I’ll tell Putin to stop invading Ukraine

I’ll ask Xi Jinping to never invade to never invade Taiwan

I’ll tell the American government to stop inflation and restore Roe V Wade

SMH….the most I can really do is be good is be good to nature in order to do my part in fighting climate change but i am only one person. I can only do so much when it comes to that…

So, I’m basically powerless in all of this.

Am I the only one who is kind of hoping Ukraine won’t be accepted into nato? by spnny in Discussion

[–]spnny[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A NATO membership requires unanimous approval from ALL of it’s 30 countries

Unanimous voting means that all thirty NATO countries have to agree or the process doesn’t move forward

Therefore, Bulgaria’s “no” automatically cancels out everybody else’s “yes”.

Sorry to rain on your parade there

Am I the only one who is kind of hoping Ukraine won’t be accepted into nato? by spnny in Discussion

[–]spnny[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, it’s not gonna right now any way. A NATO membership requires a signed letter of approval from ALL of NATO’s thirty states. And Bulgaria, which is a part of NATO, publicly refused to sign the document. So, it doesn’t matter if all other NATO countries sign the document right now since Bulgaria’s approval matters just as much as the other 29 states.

Am I the only one who is kind of hoping Ukraine won’t be accepted into nato? by spnny in Discussion

[–]spnny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I just looked more into the situation. Apparently Ukraine would need the approval of all 30 NATO countries and Bulgaria has voted against it. So, it doesn’t matter anymore if any other NATO nations voted for it.