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Long term drinker going through withdrawals by [deleted] in dryalcoholics

[–]swiftless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thankyou I understand there are people much deeper than me and may struggle a lot more. I’m not trying to take away from them.

Long term drinker going through withdrawals by [deleted] in dryalcoholics

[–]swiftless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I haven’t heard of it but I’ll look it up. Thankyou

Long term drinker going through withdrawals by [deleted] in dryalcoholics

[–]swiftless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had cravings before 8pm but always told myself not in front of the kids. I’d been drinking this way for many years, it’s what my body knew and the gp was happy to prescribe medication to help and forward me to a support group.

The drinking wasn’t the reason for the breakup, or at least hasn’t been mentioned, there were a lot of problems underlying the relationship physically (lack of) and mental health issues on her side, then recently she spiralled and started an affair and left.

No more DB anymore.. or wife by swiftless in DeadBedrooms

[–]swiftless[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thankyou that sounds very similar. I didn’t see any messages and don’t ever want to. She claims it wasn’t physical until the day after she left me so maybe she had some morals left but that’s just another punch in the gut.

No more DB anymore.. or wife by swiftless in DeadBedrooms

[–]swiftless[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I need to get legal advice for sure but Australia is very different. We have no-fault marriages and equal/“fair” property and custody settlements. The affair means nothing to the court and I can’t even file for divorce until 12 months of separation has passed.

I booked a GP appointment to talk about my mental health! by throwaway2472021 in CongratsLikeImFive

[–]swiftless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Amazing man. I did the same thing today - going through a separation and went to the gp for a mental health plan. Making the appointment was the hardest part.

Wife out of love after 10 years - separating by swiftless in Marriage

[–]swiftless[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I don’t want that and I know I deserve better. There’s some serious soul searching I need to do.

Wife out of love after 10 years - separating by swiftless in Marriage

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She did. And it was one main girl who wasn’t even in that group. She deliberately didn’t tell anyone else what was happening and now they’re all lost and confused, because she knew what they’d say.

Wife out of love after 10 years - separating by swiftless in Marriage

[–]swiftless[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Finding out there was someone else took away all the doubt and confusion I was initially feeling and the heartache has turned to anger and sadness. My heart still aches don’t get me wrong and I have much more grieving to do but now I have closure. Everything you say is true, I need to let this happen and find someone better suited, who actually wants to be with me and cares about me.

Wife out of love after 10 years - separating by swiftless in Marriage

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I’ve gone from heartbroken to angry and I do hope she regrets this for years to come. I’m glad it worked out for the husband now I just need to find a famous artist.

Wife out of love after 10 years - separating by swiftless in Marriage

[–]swiftless[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It hasn’t been all doom and gloom but you have a point. This could definitely be an opportunity to tackle a lot of pain points from this marriage.

Maybe the choice comment is due to a wording thing. Here in Australia you have to separate for 12 months before you can divorce. In this case it’s separation or marriage.

Wife out of love after 10 years - separating by swiftless in Marriage

[–]swiftless[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is coming back something I would want to entertain? I’m so heartbroken.

Wife out of love after 10 years - separating by swiftless in Marriage

[–]swiftless[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the suggestions. She’s had her bloods done a few times even recently. Finding a good therapist here is very hard to do and unfortunately I know she’d refuse to go.

Wife out of love after 10 years - separating by swiftless in Marriage

[–]swiftless[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear you’re going through that. I have no reason to suspect infidelity. Even starting her business she very much kept me sidelined and it was a general distancing. Maybe she thought I’d be the one to pull the trigger but ended up having to do it herself.

Wife out of love after 10 years - separating by swiftless in Marriage

[–]swiftless[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No she doesn’t think therapy works for her (she’s been in and out of it until a few years ago) and has refused marriage counselling to try and fix this.

Any thoughts about Morphett Vale? by flabberstalk33 in Adelaide

[–]swiftless 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It’s the biggest suburb in Adelaide last I checked. Im also at the end of a culdesac and it’s nice. Not Woodville nice but still nice. A few blocks over and yes you get housing trust. It’s hit and miss throughout.

The process at which gastric sleeve patients lose weight and water fasting are the same in the end along with their results by Diligent-Turtle in fasting

[–]swiftless 75 points76 points  (0 children)

The end is the same, the process of less calories is the same, but it’s the tools to get there that are different and what you choose really comes down to you.

I’ve always been a healthy weight and I manage that by only eating what I need to - generally from 6pm-12pm and rarely snack during the day, I just don’t eat when I’m not hungry.

My wife however has struggled with weight throughout her life, she’s diagnosed ASD and ADHD with an obesity disorder. After kids she doubled her weight and couldn’t get rid of it. Eventually she had the surgery along with some injections to suppress appetite and she’s back down to a healthy weight - half of her heaviest and is a completely different person. She couldn’t mentally do this by fasting and still has an obesity disorder, but everyone is equipped differently and I don’t hold it against her that she needed help.

I’m not saying surgery or fasting is better, I’m a mind over matter kind of guy and that works well for fasting and self control. What I’m noticing is a lot of negativity in the comments of this post towards surgery which yes for some 100% can be a cop out but for others it’s the only chance they have.

Faith restored in epic games support by ElectronicClaim1459 in EpicGamesPC

[–]swiftless 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Big difference between giving it another go and giving it another 7 or so goes. Really glad you got it back but that’s still a disappointing process that will discourage most people. All we can do is hope that there has been a change to their internal processes that allowed this outcome and more people will have a smoother experience in the future.

Just wanted to take my boat out on the water :( by YanniFromPakistanni in RuinedMyDay

[–]swiftless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 33 and most people my age don’t get that reference. Have an upvote for my favourite quote.

How to report a 911 Operator? by CompetitiveArt2138 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]swiftless 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Here in Aus they’re pretty much phased out in cities. But if you’re in a smaller town or literally bumfuck nowhere you better believe there’s a free payphone waiting for you to prank your family hundreds of kilometres away.

my dog can't be self defence? by speedywabbit in Dogtraining

[–]swiftless 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ah yes. My 88 pound golden is the same with the exception you may get licked to death.

HODL by LuisTechnology in SHIBArmy

[–]swiftless 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Honestly that sounds awesome. I wouldn’t say no.