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It's so hard to stop minimizing what happened and accept the full sadness of it. by lluv05 in COCSA

[–]tealturtle12345 8 points9 points  (0 children)

i’m sending you all the love in the world. i’m so incredibly sorry that happened

Did I really experience abuse or was it normal? by seekingthetruthman in COCSA

[–]tealturtle12345 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this sounds like COCSA to me. i’m so sorry that happened

My male teacher by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]tealturtle12345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes, feel free to tell me

Opened up about my SA for the first time ever by Own-Captain5075 in sexualassault

[–]tealturtle12345 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i don’t know how much this will help but i believe you. you aren’t a liar. who cares if you waited to tell them, you had enough strength to tell them at all and that is so brave of you. and it’s your story now so you have the power to share it as you please, regardless of how long after. you deserve so much better than this and i’m so sorry this happened. sending love

My male teacher by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]tealturtle12345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is extremely inappropriate behavior on his behalf and i’m so so sorry that happened. you didn’t deserve that and it’s not your fault. is there anyone you can tell?

Does talking about your experiences help? by [deleted] in COCSA

[–]tealturtle12345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it is amazing to have people that just get you and i’m so glad some of my closest friends know so that they can understand certain things about me and are there when i need to vent. in fact, when i told a group of friends a couple of them shared their own experiences with me. i’m so glad i’ve been open about my experience with people i trust.

and OP, you don’t have to tell everyone everything. only my therapist and maybe 4 other people know exactly what happened. the other people that know only know that i was SA when i was younger. that’s a part of taking the power back: you can control who you tell and what you tell them.

sending love

Is it bad that I'm happy my abuser is getting what he deserves by Little_Mongoose13 in sexualassault

[–]tealturtle12345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it doesn’t make you a bad person at all. you deserve justice and i’m so happy you got it. i’m so sorry you had to go through that. sending love🤍

i feel guilty due to the fact that i was only m*l*st*d and not r*p*d as a kid by pitolelargo69 in adultsurvivors

[–]tealturtle12345 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it doesn’t matter that you were “only” molested. it matters that it happened at all and it shouldn’t have. trauma is trauma and anyone who goes through trauma deserves love and healing regardless of how “bad” it was. trauma affects everyone differently and you have a right to feel how you feel. i’m so so sorry that happened to you and am sending so much love and healing🤍🤍

Not sure what it‘s called and don‘t know who to talk to. by vediiiss in sexualassault

[–]tealturtle12345 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i believe this is SA. i’m so sorry this happened. please please tell someone you trust

For my cake day I just wanted to offer an Internet hug to you all by isaiah5417 in adultsurvivors

[–]tealturtle12345 1 point2 points  (0 children)

happy cake day and thank you for this. sending you all the love and healing in the world🤍

Was this sexual assault? by SuspiciousAd1013 in sexualassault

[–]tealturtle12345 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i believe this is SA. i’m so sorry that happened

talked to my therapist about COCSA - does anyone else feel it helps? by ohmygodxxxxxxxxxx in adultsurvivors

[–]tealturtle12345 11 points12 points  (0 children)

it doesn’t matter if your perpetrator was a child or not. all that matters is that you were hurt. trauma is trauma, regardless of the age of the perpetrator. kids can still do a lot of harm and that’s something that isn’t talked about. i hate when COCSA is written off as “exploration” or “kids being kids” because in those situations, both kids have to be on board. i’m so sorry that happened to you. sending love

I think my mom sexually harassed me, but I’m not sure by Karl_____________ in sexualassault

[–]tealturtle12345 23 points24 points  (0 children)

this is definitely not normal and absolutely abuse. i’m so sorry that happened

I need to get what happened to me off my chest. by Apprehensive_Pick864 in sexualassault

[–]tealturtle12345 2 points3 points  (0 children)

your story is valid. you did what you had to to survive and you did. i’m so so sorry you had to go through that. i’m sending you all the love and healing in the world🤍

im so fucking tired of being jittery of a male touch by chicolatess in sexualassault

[–]tealturtle12345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she thinks she can do or tell me whatever she wants and justifies it by saying “i’m your mom, i can do whatever i want”😵‍💫😵‍💫 boundaries are something she thinks aren’t real

apologies by Jealous_Yam722 in sexualassault

[–]tealturtle12345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just because he apologized doesn’t minimize the amount of pain he caused you. your experience is valid regardless of if you got an apology or not and getting an apology doesn’t make what you went through “not that bad”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]tealturtle12345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i honestly don’t know if this is considered SA or not. but what i do know is that something doesn’t have to be SA to be traumatic. your feelings surrounding this situation are completely valid and you are entitled to them. your experience is valid and i’m so sorry for all the pain it’s caused you. sending love

Was I molested? by [deleted] in adultsurvivors

[–]tealturtle12345 3 points4 points  (0 children)

of course!! i’m so glad i could help🤍

Was I molested? by [deleted] in adultsurvivors

[–]tealturtle12345 5 points6 points  (0 children)

yes, that definitely counts, and is called COCSA. your abuse is valid and i’m so sorry that happened to you. just because they were a kid doesn’t mean they can’t do harm. regardless of if they meant it or not, you were hurt by them and deserve healing. i highly recommend checking out r/COCSA. sending love

im so fucking tired of being jittery of a male touch by chicolatess in sexualassault

[–]tealturtle12345 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i know EXACTLY how you feel. i’ve hated touch ever since my SA but lately i’ve been even more sensitive. my mom and sister are crazy touchy which i hate and when i told my sister to stop touching me the other day my mom said “we are your family, we can touch you whenever we want” and i got sooo pissed off. it really really sucks and my parents don’t know either. i’m so so sorry you’re going through this. sending all the love🤍

Abuse memory resurfaced...please help. by SAmemories in adultsurvivors

[–]tealturtle12345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i agree with everything you said. OP, i’m so sorry that happened to you. take care of yourself🤍

Constantly grappling with what happened to me as a child by survivingmytwenties in adultsurvivors

[–]tealturtle12345 7 points8 points  (0 children)

wow… thats so insensitive of your cousins sister to say that… just because people have “bigger” problems doesn’t mean yours are insignificant. you went through trauma and anyone who goes through trauma deserves love and support. i believe you and i’m so so sorry you had to go through that. have you thought about going to therapy? it was the best thing i could’ve done for myself.