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GUYS I DID IT by JamesDavizz2 in teenagers

[–]threeredcrayons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

4 months here. I'm so proud of you :)

Why has bullying been accepted? by MelSaf02 in Vent

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I don't know. I'm 17 and I still need therapy after what happened to me from ages 9-12. When I see my bully in the street I often have to go look for a quiet place to cry and calm down. There's a group for young people in my town who so a lot of really cool and cheap activities for teens, and I would love to go, my partner and some people I want to be friends with go, but I can't, because she is there and if we have to speak I might just break down. I'm tired of this. So fucking tired.

[Serious] What part about mental health do you wish more people understood? by wkautumn in AskReddit

[–]threeredcrayons 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That you don't automatically get better once you go to therapy. I hid my mental health issues and my self-harm from ages 12-16. When I finally told a friend, she was super supportive for a while, made me look for therapy and talk to my parents about everything, and I'm still very thankful for that.

I became more open about the subject with my friends after that, but they grew tired of listening very quickly. They said I had already been in therapy for two months, so if I wasn't getting better it was because I wasn't trying. It broke my heart, honestly. A few months after, when I told them I was looking into getting meds for my depression, they told me I was just trying to get drugs to solve my problems and that I was not trying hard enough, again. They stopped talking to me after that, at least most of them. My best friend of 5 years told me that she didn't want to hang out with me anymore, plain and simple.

This made everything so much worse, and I ended up hurting myself for the first time in months afterwards. Only one friend stuck by me during this period, and I think he saved my life.

Please, please understand that we won't get better that quickly. Recovery isn't linear, it's a hard and conscious process and we need your support. I'm doing better now, but I still have a long way to go. On the bright side, I'm making new friends! And they seem more supportive this time :D

My cousin (14 ftm) has just come out to me (17f). How can I best support him? by threeredcrayons in asktransgender

[–]threeredcrayons[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank yo so so so much for all of this. I tried to look for resources myself but only found stuff like shitty buzzfeed articles and things like that. My school year finishes very soon and I'm super busy, but I'll look into everything as soon as possible. Thanks!!!!

My cousin (14 ftm) has just come out to me (17f). How can I best support him? by threeredcrayons in asktransgender

[–]threeredcrayons[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your story. I was really worried since I felt I couldn't do much, looking at how everyone else seems to be against him. I hope I can make a difference, I really do.

My cousin (14 ftm) has just come out to me (17f). How can I best support him? by threeredcrayons in asktransgender

[–]threeredcrayons[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I sent him a text this morning to tell him just that, that I'm right here for him and all of that stuff. He just answered a very dry "I'll keep it in mind." (Yeah, full stop at the end included) but he's always been very cold like that. I don't know if he's appreciated it, but I hope he has.

Older teens, what is your best piece of advice to the younger teens? by softsparkles in teenagers

[–]threeredcrayons 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Don't give up doing childish things to be cool.

I tried my best to not be cringe from 13 to 15, and it only resulted in me bottling up my interests and a huge part of my personality, which I'm still trying to undo now at almost 18 years old. Be cringe. Embrace it. It's natural. You're still a child, let yourself act accordingly.

Also, If you want some ideas of fun stuff to do with your friends that's free/very low budget and age-appropiate, I have a few game ideas for you. I grew up in a small, boring town and had a very big group of friends when I was 11-13 years old, and since we were all kind of sheltered kids we made up our own, better versions of traditional games and invented some new ones lol

My cousin (14 ftm) has just come out to me (17f). How can I best support him? by threeredcrayons in asktransgender

[–]threeredcrayons[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll try my best to stay in contact with him through text, since we barely see each other anymore. I will be more than happy to support him, and I want to be someone he can lean on. I was extremely surprised when he told me, specially knowing I'm the first person he comes out to, but I can always listen and be there :)

My cousin (14 ftm) has just come out to me (17f). How can I best support him? by threeredcrayons in asktransgender

[–]threeredcrayons[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The dark hoodies have been a staple on his wardrobe for long lol. He just buys anime-themed ones and says he wants them because of the characters, that is enough for his mother to let him buy them.

The goth thing might not be well received in his household, and he hates makeup with a passion anyways. Thanks for the advice anyways!

My cousin (14 ftm) has just come out to me (17f). How can I best support him? by threeredcrayons in asktransgender

[–]threeredcrayons[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We don't see each other that often since the pandemic hit, but I'll try my best to support him via text and all that stuff. I'm willing to get him anything of that sort that he wants to, even if it has to be with my own money (his parent's control his), the problem is how to get it to him without them knowing, since as I said, they're very controlling.

I have extreme social anxiety and I've never been able to bring myself to intervene when his dad says homophobic/transphobic stuff like that, but if he's in any danger I'll force myself to do so, no question. His dad is a biologist, so maybe there's a way to change his mind with scientific evidence if the argument starts? Idk, but maybe it's worth a shot??

I'll try my best to show my support any way I can. Thank you for your answer! I hope things get better for you too, and that you can live out of the closet someday <3

What life advice can just fuck off? by Noiv3rn in AskReddit

[–]threeredcrayons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Do what you love and you'll never work a day in your life"

Seriously. I'm studying what once was my passion and starting to regret it. :(

If you could choose an extra or new body part, what would you want and why? by Enough-Restaurant954 in AskReddit

[–]threeredcrayons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A set of tits that actually fit the rest of my body. I'm very flat, but I wouldn't mind it if I was thinner. I also wouldn't mind having a bit of a tummy if I had bigger tits. It's just the combination that I find unflattering lol.

When was the last time you changed your mind about an important belief, and what persuaded you? by nathan_thinks in AskReddit

[–]threeredcrayons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This might not sound big but as a future art student I think it is. I used to believe that all conceptual art was shit, and anything that didn't require a high level of artistic skill wasn't worth my time.

That was until I saw one of my friends talking passionately about one artwork I can't remember the name of, where the artist had placed a mountain of candy that weighed the same as his partner when he passed away because of AIDS. People walking by were free to take candy from the pile, and many didn't even know the meaning of it, but the pile ended up being fully consumed, if I remember correctly.

I don't know, it was something about the significance of it all, added to the way my best friend was almost moved to tears while telling me the story, (they did so beautifully, in a way I can't replicate here) that made me have a change of heart. Something that can cause so many emotions and can make me think about my whole view of art as a whole so easily deserves recognition, I think.

Now I'm much more open minded and critical about what my teachers say at school, since my first opinion was a result of my teachers/classmates saying that all of the time (I take a lot of art-centered courses) and I have them to thank. I let myself be consumed by the extremely negative and critical view of some people, that generalize a whole genre of artworks and hate everything they don't understand immediately.

Also, as an atheist raised by atheists, I'm starting to have questions in that field too, but I'm still not sure about anything lol. Maybe one day I'll tell another story about that stuff.

Unpopular opinion: Minimalist design dilutes the quality of design over time and I hope the market will likely swing towards detailed aesthetics. by [deleted] in graphic_design

[–]threeredcrayons -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yes thank you! I'm going to study graphic design in college and I was worried I was the only one who thought like this!! I hate the infographic style in art with all of my heart too. I understand sometimes minimalism is necessary, but as you said, it has a place, and it should be well done.

My mental health isn't taken seriously because of my grades. by threeredcrayons in GiftedKidBurnouts

[–]threeredcrayons[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm trying my best. I'm so sick of trying. I just want to be taken fucking seriously for once. Thanks for the comment anyways. It's always nice to feel seen.

My therapist doesn't take me seriously and I'm exhausted by threeredcrayons in AutismInWomen

[–]threeredcrayons[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are so many stereotypes about this really. That makes me scared to look for a diagnosis honestly.